Parade of Delusion

Saturday, May 21, 2005

So long, and thanks for all the hits.

Today, almost a year and a half after it began, the Parade of Delusion officially comes to an end. What began as a way to communicate with my friends and family back home, evolved into something so much more - a place to write thoughts, post funny stories, share photos, talk about what was going on in the world and in my life. And I am grateful for that, and grateful too for all the readers who have shared in this journey with me. Since I began tracking hits, over 15,000 people have visited this corner of the world wide web. I've done my best to provide all of you with stories worth telling, stories that Mrs. Kennedy so graciously calls "good and true and full of fun." I am humbled by your collective response.

My blog has always been unfiltered. A quick check through the archives will provide any interested party with my full name, my email, pictures of my family, my friends, and the names of some of my former employers. I think stories are somehow less true when told behind a mask, and so, from the outset, I chose to put my information out there front and center. I see now that this was a grave error, because it gave me a sense of invulnerabilty which I fear I may have passed on to the one I care most about.

Sarah, my girlfriend, began blogging shortly after meeting me. She, too, had caught the bug. Unlike me, however, she chose to remain anonymous - or rather, to remain as anonymous as possible. Yesterday, she left a comment on Jen and Tonic, sharing some of her own experiences of having a manic-depressive family member. Some individuals took exception to her post, thinking she was too mean. While I will say that Sarah has one of the kindest, most caring souls of anyone I know - I will refrain from debating the finer points of her comments. Mostly because I don't give a shit, but also because I can't win. People will think what they want to think, and that's ok.

What's not ok is to take something from the INTERNET and use it to hurt someone in real life. Blogger Styrofoam Kitty did some detective work (admittedly not much) and was able to find all of Sarah's personal information, which she then posted online for all to read. Someone, perhaps Kitty herself, then sent it to Sarah's boss. And she was fired. Escorted out by security. For all intents and purposes, her life has been destroyed. And over what? A blog comment.

And the SICKNESS that would lead someone to do that makes me ill.

What makes me particularly nauseous is that I know both Jen and Tonic and Styrofoam Kitty have read this blog, because both are regular Fussy readers and my post "The Juice is Loose" was so kindly linked to by Mrs. Kennedy back in January. I made you laugh and you hurt the one I love. Congratulations. It feels as if I've been punched in the stomach.

I can no longer provide entertainment for people who are so depraved they would use blogs to intentionally hurt another person. I can no longer take the chance that I will get hurt myself.

And so I sign off. I have no delusions of my own importance. At best, I was worth 5 minutes of your day, and while I tried as hard as possible to make those 5 minutes worth it, I doubt very much that I'll be missed. In the event that someone does miss me, however, I've decided to leave my archive up. May you all find as much joy in reading my stories as I did in writing them.
And if I ever see some of you in person, the first round is on me.

Peace be with you.

12 Comments:

  • i'm sorry for sarah. i hope this has... well, it can't have a happy ending. but i hope it's not as bleak as it must seem right now. i'm glad she has a nice boyfriend. and i hope you'll come back around someday.

    By Blogger tuckova, at 7:31 AM  

  • i have taken down the relevant post and links. if you know me at all from my blog, you will know i would never want someone to lose their job because of me. please don't abandon your blog because of my lameness.

    jenB

    By Blogger jenB, at 3:28 PM  

  • to sarah: The world is disgusting. I wish you godspeed as you figure out where to go from here. There is no human explanation or comfort for what has happened to you and you don't deserve this outcome.

    This story reminds me very much of a funeral, that is, of the kind of loss that is cruel and unexplainable, and so I say to you the only thing that seems to fit at a time like this: I'm sorry for your loss. There is nothing else I could even say that would be of any value.

    to my brother: This is so twisted. I shall undeniably miss your blogs. Just make sure you maintain your perseverance in terms of tuning your craft.

    Do acknowledge, though, that your blogs were never for us, they were always for you, your yellowbrick road to the land of Oz...the path to your dreams but a journey that has ultimately shown that the ability to write has always been in you.

    Never stop writing. Somehow.

    Godspeed to the both of you. I'd help you if I could.

    By Blogger fattyhidalgo, at 9:49 PM  

  • I should have made this clear: This will not be a forum for debate. All contentious comments will be immediately deleted.

    By Blogger Shawn, at 11:04 AM  

  • Well, I for one will miss you. Sorry to see you go.

    By Blogger Katie, at 3:05 PM  

  • It would be a shame to stop blogging, Shawn. Please reconsider.

    By Blogger hazelblackberry, at 5:50 PM  

  • I'm greatly saddened by the repulsive act that caused Sarah to lose her job, and for the rest of us to lose your impressive blogs. I will miss you...

    By Blogger paper boats, at 8:11 PM  

  • I don't recall how I got turned on to your blog in the first place but it's part of my daily path through my favourites list. My jaw is on the floor about what happened to Sarah and I don't blame you for this reaction but I intend to check back in the hopes that you reconsider.

    By Blogger lmcatl, at 6:09 AM  

  • I want to make it perfectly clear to you that I did not email anyone at your girlfriend's company. I admit that it was poor judgment on my part to do the small amount of "detective work" that I did, but I did nothing more than that.

    It troubles me greatly to see anyone lose their job over a weblog. Getting "dooced" is a very serious threat, of course. I am very sorry that Sarah lost her job over her weblog.

    I wish you and Sarah the best.

    By Blogger styro, at 6:41 AM  

  • I'm absolutely disgusted that this happened to such a nice person. What happened will certainly have a chilling effect on our little circle of bloggers. Shawn - thankfully I'll still see you around L.A., but I'll miss the easy access to your writing, which is excellent. Sarah - if there's anything I can do, just say the word.

    By Blogger Puma, at 5:30 PM  

  • Sean, this is terrible. I am so sorry this happened.

    By Blogger Formerly Mrs. Kennedy, at 11:07 AM  

  • Shawn is MINE you cannot have him

    By Blogger Princess_Sarah, at 5:03 PM  

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